Is it possible to boost confidence?
We may think we should have confidence fully sorted by this point in our lives and careers, but lacking confidence is actually pretty common. And it can understandably make a huge difference to those experiencing it.
I consider why confidence is both a relevant and important topic, before focusing on 11 practical ways to boost confidence at work and in other aspects of our lives.
“A feeling of self-assurance arising from an appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.”
Oxford English Dictionary
Confidence, like many other things in life, is not a given. Looking at young children, some seem to have it in bucket-loads and others just don’t. Our personal levels can waiver throughout our lives (or even days) and can also fluctuate depending on our emotional state on the given context. I might be very confident coaching, for example, but would have none at all when making a fancy birthday cake.
Ironically, many of us seem to lose confidence as we get older and more experienced. As if we haven’t got enough other things to worry about! For example, Nextshark.com reported how women’s confidence declines with experience: 27% of new female staff are confident they can reach top v 13% in experienced female staff
Our confidence can also be affected by comparisons. This could be vis a vis to others or whether we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves or standards to attain and we struggle to live up to these.
Confidence levels can be fragile and affected at any time. From a work perspective, we may feel less confident when returning to work after a career-break, following redundancy, following a poor performance review, restructuring, obsolescence of roles, unsuccessful job applications or promotion attempts etc.
How confident we feel is very important as it can ultimately affect how successful we are.
Our confidence can have a direct correlation with our performance – initially with regards to a particular context, but potentially extending to others. This is true whether we are increasing or losing confidence.
It can affect the risks we take and ultimately the variety and richness of our lives.
Many of us are not achieving our full potential because of low confidence. It could stop us from performing at our best. Worse still, it may also dissuade us from even trying.
Lacking confidence may make us unhappy, especially if we’re not fulfilled and are seeing others around us achieve things. Furthermore, it could also affect our mental health and could ultimately make us ill.
Being confident is not about arrogance or complacency. When we’re feeling confident, life feels brighter and easier. We feel motivated, engaged, smarter, achieving, fulfilled, content and even happier. We get on with the task at hand and get results.
When we’re not confident we may feel overwhelmed, discouraged, frustrated, intimidated, disengaged and unimportant.
We absolutely can!
I found this quote on a postcard and it really resonated with me:
“Being confident is not about having no fear or doubt.Quite the opposite.It’s about being unsure, but going ahead anyway.It’s about having the courage to embrace change, forge relationships, aim for new horizons and reach for the stars.Confidence is about facing challenges head-on, embodying a positive mindset, accepting your vulnerabilities, learning from mistakes, picking yourself up and carrying on…True confidence is about conquering the intangible fears we face on a daily basis.And the best news?Confidence can be learned!”
Our confidence levels can affect how we feel, our energy, our performance and ultimately how successful we are in life. Ironically, as we get older and more experienced our confidence levels may take a dip. The great thing is there are some simple things that we can all do to boost our confidence, to improve and enrichen our lives for the better.
Look at Blue Diamond Coaching and Boost your Confidence options to learn more how to boost confidence.
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